Meet Ruby 

What is done to you does not define you.

With the right set of tools and a trauma-informed safe space you can make the changes you need to make.

I wrote Healing from Narcissistic Abuse - Journeys from Abuse to Freedom after women told me that I had changed their lives. They used the information I gave them from my program Define Yourself!

They told me Define Yourself! gave them the courage they needed to make decisions.

I am making Define Yourself! available to everyone whether you feel unsafe at home or in a relationship or whether something doesn’t feel quite right for you.

I’ll create a safe space for you and you choose to share if you want to. I’ll provide the resources and explain how everything works. You’ll be better-informed so you can make decisions knowing what you want to do.

A woman wearing a white headwrap and a white, patterned top, smiling softly indoors with curtains in the background.

Author

  1. Healing from Narcissistic Abuse - Journeys from Abuse to Freedom

    Stories, Tools + Community for Healing Curious Humans

  2. Chapter 7: Unknown, Lost, or Forgotten: How Our Wombs Experience Domestic Violence and Trauma  BestSeller Status 2025

  3. Writer: Her Nation Global Magazine since April 2024

    Education/Training

  4. BDAF - Domestic Abuse Trainer, UK (since 2006)

  5. DipPs - Diploma Probation Studies, UK

  6. MSc - Policy Studies

  7. Freedom Program Facilitator (since 2006) - DV program

  8. Certified Trauma Facilitator and Trainer, licensed in the BeyondTrauma modality with Mayameen Meftahi (since 2021)