Identity & Relationship
Coach for men
After decades of working with women and children experiencing domestic violence and abuse, and training professionals in managing domestic violence, I became a probation officer in the UK. I wanted to understand why abusers behaved as they did. Patriarchal systems, cultural behaviours, and religious beliefs and expectations directly impact trauma and domestic violence and abuse (DVA). I take this into account for every individual I work with, whether man or woman, to better deconstruct the various issues that hold people back from living their lives freely.
I believe people should be given the reins to make their own decisions. I provide the tools to help you make informed decisions about your life by creating trauma informed spaces throughout my programmes, where you can learn to identify and deconstruct limiting behaviours. As a certified trauma facilitator (ACCPH certified) I am licensed to deliver the BeyondTrauma modality. My mission is to ensure everyone knows and understands that they can heal themselves from childhood, relationship, and generational issues. You deserve to be seen and heard.
Clients have described my program as being ‘an evolutionary journey of self-discovery’, and told me, ‘even my mum is sleeping more comfortably knowing I’m on this healing journey with you!’. I invite you to explore the Define Yourself! Method, my signature programme.
“Life is the letter C between B and D. B is Birth, D is Death and C is the Choice you make in between” (Jim Kwik).
What choice will you make?
My Book
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: Journeys from Abuse to Freedom
You don’t have to continue re-living your past in order to move forward. You can find safety after being hurt.
An intimate and intellectual discussion on the ways abuse manifests itself and the many paths we can take to find our way out of darkness. This book documents three distinct stories of muslim women healing after abuse.
Offering insights into women's Islamic rights, and deep diving into the impact of patriarchy, culture, and religion in intimate relationships, Healing from Narcissistic Abuse provides a new lens to view life from. Learn how to recognise and cope with abusive behaviours, such as narcissism and coercive control, through the tools and examples within these pages.
Whether you are muslim or not, you'll find much needed wisdom and comfort in these stories. Embark on a journey of discovery and see what doors might just unlock on your way...
I’ll be writing about one woman’s journey of abuse through her pregnancies and how she cared for her babies and managed to get her life back on track. Coming end of 2026.
Womb Trauma
I wrote Chapter 7 - Memories: Unknown, Lost, or Forgotten in Healing Curious Humans. You can also read an article I wrote on Trauma and the Womb.