Identity & Relationship Transformation

Everything you need is within you

A woman wearing a white headwrap and a white, patterned top, smiling softly indoors with curtains in the background.

I’m Ruby

I help successful men (and women) rebuild their lives after divorce and when relationships have left them feeling lost, confused or hurt. Men and women tell me I give them the courage to make decisions and start believing in themselves. I do this by sharing my signature program, Define Yourself!

I wrote Healing from Narcissistic Abuse - Journeys from Abuse to Freedom to share true stories of women I worked with, who had left relationships not understanding abuse or, what was happening to them. In a few years they became completely independent and told me the information I gave them helped set them free. I’m now making my program available to men.

I create safe spaces for men and women to heal from invisible, hidden pain, whether from a relationship, childhood or generational trauma - I never want to re-traumatise anyone, ever. Unspoken pain needs to be released but you don’t have to speak about it to do that. You need a trauma-informed practitioner who practices this art. It allows you to trust yourself and begin creating the life you want. No guilt. No judgement.

I invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery:

‘Life is the letter C between B and D. B is Birth, D is Death and C is the Choice you make in between’ (Jim Kwik).